For those of us floating in the northern hemisphere, it’s annual break-out-the-bikini time but not all of us are cheering and I don’t blame the ones who moaned. I mean, prancing around in a bathing suit is pretty scary, especially with all those people “watching”, who wouldn’t feel a least a bit self conscious?
But come on, let’s get rid of that. Life’s too short and opportunities only come once right. I used to be so horrified of the bikini, I just always felt like there were people staring, judging. It made me feel uncomfortable, hell, I still feel a bit uncomfortable but I’ve learnt now to cope with it.
I hope you like this post because honestly, its just the 7 things that’s helped me over the years and don’t worry, I’m still getting there but they definitely help. Try to be uncynical 🙂 Please?
- The Cliche Is True
No one is perfect. It’s said so so much these days that we just get so skeptical and damn sick of hearing it but it is true. And before you roll your eyes, just think for a second what you think is “perfect”, what is that “ideal”, is it embodied by ONE person or multiple people, is it even a true image. No one is perfect. Don’t stress if your waist isn’t 10 inches from your bust and hips, what does it even matter? What difference does it make? Who will even notice? That brings me to my next point.
- The Secret Truth
No one is looking at you. Honestly, the only reason someone would be checking you out is a) they’re a guy and find you attractive and requiring “attention” 😉 or b) it’s another insecure girl sizing herself up. Everyone’s inherently selfish. They’re not worried about whether you fit the mark. They’re worried about themselves. Why are their legs not as long as yours? Why this. Why that. Stop worrying. No one will even know those little “imperfections” you find drastically “problematic”.
Just have fun. When you’re at the beach or pool, just have fun! Its only when you’re young you get to do this stuff, enjoy it. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good, who you’ll have a great time with. You’ll forget all those unimportant “imperfections” when you’re having fun!
- When Respecting, It’s Yourself First
It’s hard to feel like you look good if you don’t feel good. Feel yourself well and treat yourself well. Filling your belly with guilt food or junk food will just make you feel unhappy and self-conscious. Eat healthy, not just for your body’s sake, but for your health’s. Remember that a balanced diet and exercise is essential. Don’t abolish all guilt foods from your life, you need those little treat right?
- Retail Time
Look for the perfect pair of swimmers. And take your time. If you look good, you’ll feel good right?
- Steer Away From Them Coveted Bodies
No one is to deny that those Victoria’s Secret Angels are gorgeous but using them as a “goal” is highly unrealistic. Hanging up those pictures of those hot girls with bodies you’ll never get is just a waste. Those celebs have everything at their fingertips and honestly if we were all to look like that we’d be in build with a full styling team and we’ll all end up like Barbie, and THAT would just not be fun. Comparing your body with others is made to be a losing battle. We’re all made to look differently and let me tell you, no matter how many lunges you do, you’ll never have JLo’s bum. And that’s more than okay. So work on your self-esteem. You don’t need to look like that. Everyone is different. And that’s okay. And it’s beautiful.
- One Step At a Time
“Just do it.” “Practice makes perfect.” “Fake it ’til you make it.”
Again, the cliches. I remember the first time I wore a bikini, and I’m not gonna lie, it was horrible. I felt awkward and overexposed. And even my bubble wrapped self-esteem was taking a bit of a hit. I mean, you might as well be naked. But I forced myself. And guess what? I noticed that everyone was doing their own thing. Yeah, people look, but it wasn’t like they were gagging at the sight of me. No one cared – people were getting on with their lives and didn’t have time to stare and criticize little me in my bikini. And now, I feel almost comfortable in a bikini.
And even if you’re not comforable try a one piece, than a tankini and then a bikini. It’s normal to be uncomforable!
So that is the end of my bikini story. What is yours? Tell me in the comments below
I hope you enjoyed this post and see you tomorrow. 🙂
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